” I founded the Institute for Global Leadership in response to the tragic events of September 11, 2001. I drew on my experience in New York during the World Trade Center attacks, as well as experience n the United Nations since 1991, conceiving, developing and training Reconciliation Leaders. At the United Nations conference on the Environment and Development (popularly known as the Earth Summit in 1992) , I perceived a deep-seated need to offer Reconciliation Leaders and a Global Mediation and Reconciliation Service to the United Nations and wider world..” Virginia Swain
For the UN75 review, I recalled how I went to the United Nations in 1992 to study the reasons the Persian Gulf Resolution passed in the Security Council. and to offer a new model of leadership, Reconciliation Leadership. My response was to begin with an independent study master’s degree program held at the United Nations through Lesley University to explore the leadership needed to rule out armed force to make peace. I hoped to learn how to begin resolving conflicts when the dispute was at a low level, with the intention of creating safe, emotional space in groups to resolve their differences.
Trust can build between people when they feel emotionally safe and when they regard low-level conflict as healthy. Drawing on Speed Leas’ work on the five levels of conflict, I learned that low level conflicts — problem to solve or misunderstanding – do not need a third party to be resolved. The only requirement is that the parties are accountable and not blameful. I also explored the theory and practice of coexistence — a minimum standard for the world where people grant others, by whom they are threatened, the right to exist —making it emotionally safe for people who are different.
I was interested in developing a deeper standard for leaders which I termed Reconciliation Leadership. The training of these leaders begins with building a mission statement and continues by building tools, techniques, perspectives, and an academic curriculum to build on their mission. The program was designed to address and heal the anger, fear, and other emotions that lead to a breakdown of communications to reconcile deep-rooted, intractable disputes.
Reconciliation is based on a spiritual foundation of forgiveness, love, trust, and hope, common to all the world’s religions and spiritual traditions. My hope was that Reconciliation Leaders could contribute to the peaceful resolution of disputes found in Chapter V1, Article 33 of the Charter so the United Nations and the international community could become a true peacemaking body — dedicated to its followers, the world’s peoples, enacting the General Assembly Resolution in 2003, “The Peoples of this world have a right to peace.”
The master’s thesis project was held at the United Nations as a first case study of applied Reconciliation Leadership. It was conceived and implemented as an alternative to the use of armed force in Kuwait mandated as part of the United Nations Security Council Persian Gulf Resolution. Her goal was to develop political will among people on the ground in accordance with Rousseau’s will of the people as opposed to the traditional political will of states.
Drawing on Harvard University’s Ron Heifitz’s Leadership without Easy Answers, when there is no clear-cut solution to a problem, an experimental approach is needed for an adaptive style of leadership. The conventional style of leadership is technical and requires expertise.
Reconciliation Leadership is an adaptive style rather than the conventional technical style of leadership. Reconciliation Leaders provide a catalytic, facilitative leadership that allows emerging and seasoned professionals to draw on inborn core gifts combined with academic training to develop their vocational calling to leadership.
Reconciliation Leaders offer the Sacred Container to heal the Historic Cycle of Violence
Reconciliation Leaders provide a way to address the emotional aspects of a challenge through a Sacred Container. When high levels of emotion cause people to raise their voices, scream at, strike or kill one another, skilled Reconciliation Leaders provide a useful way for participants to begin healing from those alienating experiences by building relationships across divisions.
Participants create ground rules for themselves that are facilitated by Reconciliation Leaders. A safe, sacred place is created where people can coexist, begin to trust themselves and each other, and become conscious of unconscious behavior. The need comes from an understanding of the shadow or unconscious part of each person and situation where we express our limitations without our awareness. Reconciliation Leaders share resources and power, withdraw their unconscious projections and dissipate emotional reactions in such a way that the outcome of the meeting is owned by everyone present.
There is an untapped potential for good in our emotional and spiritual energies. Reconciliation Leaders release these [unconscious] energies or emotions, letting go of their need to control the outcome. “I” statements are used (rather than you, blameful, statements) so that participants can be accountable to (not blame) themselves without projecting unresolved internal issues onto others.
I designed Celebration of the Children of the World: A Model for Building Global Community (CCW) for my master’s thesis project. CCW builds on the momentum of 40,000 people from 185 countries assembling at the United Nations Conference on Environment and Development (UNCED or Earth Summit) in Rio de Janeiro. At a vigil of all the world’s religions at the Global Forum, a parallel conference to UNCED, built on a profound experience of the union that Boulding uses as her penultimate stage in the Conflict Management Continuum during the all-night vigil worshiping with thousands in their own traditions. The Dalai Lama brought us all together in five minutes of the deepest silence I had ever experienced. Following the silence, a sound arose from one person and grew to include the sounds of 40,000 people, such that they became one. They sang and danced for joy at meeting one another anew—strangers became joyful co-celebrants.
The Celebration Model produced a new model for building global community (Lesley University Master’s Thesis, 1993). As implied before, it was inspired by a vigil of the world’s religions at the Rio de Janeiro Brazil Earth Summit in June 1992, where people of sovereign nations came together for a celebratory experience of one human family, brother and sisterhood. Celebration helps people accept the sufferings of everyday life by allowing them to relax and let go. Celebration expresses the true meaning of community as they unite their hearts through a moment of wonder. The joy of the body and the senses are linked to the joy of the Spirit. Former Secretary-General de Cuellar says there is no more beautiful profession on earth than to unite humans. Celebration allows an experience of unity and empowerment by bringing people together for an experience of joy.
Using Celebration as a Tool for Dispute Transformation
Even though there was no dispute in Rio at the Earth Summit, I was struck by the potential for such communities to transform disputes through celebration. I began conceptualizing a Reconciliation Leadership intervention at the United Nations, much like what I had found at the Vigil in Rio, as one of key characteristics or competencies of this leadership style. Fifty celebration artists and a steering committee produced the Celebration of the Children of the World event after six months of preparation, by having a vigil and performances by children. To do this, I used the Celebration Model to build a holding environment (sacred container) for the steering committee to contain the emotions, presence and purpose to bring various components of the UN community together as a soul force for building global community. They realized they could hold the space intentionally for members of the United Nations community in the event itself—international civil servants, state and non-governmental actors. In the steering committee, people were able to let go and find their common humanity—especially useful for post-conflict peacebuilding.
The Celebration Model became the first Peacebuilding Process of Reconciliation to Develop Political Will (the Peacebuilding Process, Rousseau, the will of the people). In instances where it is not appropriate to celebrate, a ritual that would commemorate the need to mourn or express another emotional stage of growth would be available—a Global Liturgy.
When internalized emotions are released in safe space, participants can form a bond. On the eve of the New York Celebration of the Children of the World event, there was a dispute between two of the steering committee members. One of the mutually-agreed-upon ground rules was that “we wouldn’t run away from conflict, but rather be a listening presence for the other no matter how hard it was.” Because of the successful enactment of that ground rule, one of the parties to the dispute was able to tell the second disputant that the experience was a positive and life-changing example for her on how to work through interpersonal conflict successfully.
Reconciliation Leadership addresses injured and injurers in people and systems that allow people to share their gifts in safety, without being invalidated or denigrated. It is a respectful, fully participatory model, allowing a shared vision and mission to emerge. Prescriptive processes are given up; being an expert evolves into having expertise; blaming and evading accountability evolve into interpersonal competence and personal responsibility; reacting evolves into responding.
Figure (above): To create emotional safety through the Sacred Container, Virginia Swain adapted the Victimhood and Aggression: Psychological Dynamics, The Center for Strategic and International Studies shows two circles: the inner circle shows the cycle of victimhood while the outer circle shows the cycle of healing when an intervention takes place. Reprinted with permission. Virginia’s adaptatation changes the wording to injured and injurers to attempt to removed prejorative language.
Reconciliation Leaders provide an intervention to address the cycle of violence and provide a way for victims to mourn, express grief and accept loss (outer circle). Participants create ground rules as a way of re-humanizing the enemy, holding them accountable for unconscious inner conflicts. This allows people to share openly in a safe space, without feeling invalidated or denigrated, in a respectful and fully participatory process. The allows a shared vision and trust to emerge. People uncover new ways to forgive and negotiate solutions. Reconciliation Leader Sam Onapa speaks of the impact of Reconciliation Leadership and the Sacred Container and our approach to bias and building trust.
Conflict and cultural competency
There is a need for conflict competency—first to clarify what is believed and valued when it comes to conflict; second to stimulate thinking about how conflicts in one’s life have been managed; and third to see that resolving conflict in a positive manner will strengthen all relationships, working as a valid conflict management system in community, institutional, national and global settings.
There is also a need to learn the impact of cultural differences (including gender, ethnicity and race) in the dispute resolution process. Because the effectiveness of various conflict management strategies is influenced by cultural considerations and differences, we need to examine the various models for training leaders to intervene in disputes where these are a factor.
Reconciliation Leaders serve their followers by facilitating others through their transformations in a deeply respectful “I-thou” relationship (Martin Buber), rather than one of control and manipulation.
Created by a Nobel nominee and Dartmouth College sociologist, the late Dr. Elise Boulding’s Conflict Management Continuum is enhanced by Reconciliation Leaders working toward the penultimate part of her continuum, “union.” Boulding’s view is that we live in a society that places a high value on dealing with conflict as something that has to be won. The goal is to vanquish or threaten (deter) the adversary. Yet we all know there are other ways of managing conflict—these other methods could be thought of as varying approaches on the spectrum of Boulding’s conflict continuum.
Reconciliation Leaders help move conflict from a war of extermination to integration and union, from violence to nonviolence, from destructive to integrative behavior. Limited war, deterrence, and threat are all on the violent side of the continuum. Noncompliance, arbitration, mediation, and negotiation lie in a violence-neutral, middle region. Reconciliation, active cooperation, and integration/union lie on the positive, nonviolent side.
Harold Saunders Public Peace Process is shown below, integrated with my personal peace process.
The components of accountability, forgiveness and reconciliation are essential to the style of leadership that is needed for the UN75 review. Otherwise the world will repeat the suffering and horrors of this century’s wars, ethnic conflict and the use of force as a response to terrorism. The best of our humanity is desperately needed now. The figure above shows the Public Peace Process (Saunders) integrated with the Personal Peace Process (Swain) for a Sacred Container to reconcile the cycle of violence.
Imaging the Solution to a Challenge
Another technique of a Reconciliation Leader is the imaging process in which the solution to a challenge is imagined, based on the work of my mentor, the late Nobel Peace Prize Nominee Quaker Dr. Elise Boulding’s pioneering work. Reconciliation Leaders image the solution to a challenge, believing that if you can’t “see” a solution to a challenge in your mind’s eye, it will be impossible to resolve. Reconciliation Leaders receive their image in meditation, make a timeline backwards and an action plan to bring it into current reality. See Dr. Boulding’s last book: Cultures of Peace: The Hidden Side of History for more. Below, constructed in 2020 during COVID19 is a large group image that imagines a new world emerging from the global ravages of COVID19. Each participant made their own timeline and action plan.
Reconciliation Leader Dr. Sarah Sayeed was the featured speaker and received the Institute for Global Leadership’s Life Leadership Service Award when the organization celebrated its 20th anniversary on October 21, 2021. In celebration of our 20th anniversary, I launched the Phoenix Scholarship in honor of all graduates of the leadership program.
The Institute honors the significant contribution of Dr. Sarah Sayeed to the interdisciplinary practice of Reconciliation Leadership, a program for practical idealists from all cultures, disciplines, and career paths in service to reconcile protracted conflict and restore faith in leadership and in America. The award recognizes the practice of “leadership from the inside out,” the application of Reconciliation Leadership to build communities and her collaboration with Vme on papers concerning Reconciliation Leadership that they co-authored in 2005 and 2006 for The Human Dignity Network at Columbia University.
- A Leadership and Practice to Reconcile Challenges in a Post–September 11th World, and
- Reconciliation as Policy: A Capacity–Building Proposal for Renewing Leadership and Development
Reconciliation Leaders wrote about their experience as Reconciliation Leaders in the Afterwords Section of my memoir. My Soul’s Journey to Refine Leadership: A New Phoenix Rises from the Ashes of 9/11.
Peace Through Reconciliation
The Fellowship of Reconciliation (FOR)
Reconciliation, according to Martin Luther King, is the final, large and difficult step in peacemaking, essential if we are to move into beloved community. If we fail to nurture a reconciling spirit that listens, forgives and persists, our protests can become harsh and shrill as we move from one struggle to the next with deepening anger and frustration.
Rightly enraged at the vast scope of injustice, suffering, greed and exploitation in the world, we are tempted to externalize evil as “out there,” forgetting our own complicity, our own shadow (unconscious) side — our own need of redemption. Alexander Solzhenitsyn, writing in The Gulag Archipelago of his experiences in Soviet prison camps, observed that the line separating good and evil passes not through states nor between classes, nor between political parties either — but right through every human heart and through all human hearts. The enemy, the oppressor, the hurtful person, the “other,” is (with his victim) a part of the whole human family. The cycle of evil and suffering can be broken when we open ourselves to the grace that enables forgiveness and, ultimately, reconciliation to take place. To say this does not mask the real conflict involved in struggling against injustice and oppression, but it reminds us that — at every stage — the peacemaker seeks to overcome evil with good, using means that are consistent with the aim being sought.
The challenge to peacemakers to overcome evil with good (by developing the work and upgrading skills to provide resources, tools and processes for Reconciliation Leaders) is essential so that mediation and reconciliation services can be provided for the United Nation’s 75-year review in 2020.
Since 1992, I committed my consulting practice resources to design and implement a new social development model I conceived and developed at the United Nations, now focused on American Leadership. The Peacebuilding Process of Reconciliation to develop political will wasl based on Jean-Jacques Rousseau’s theory of the will of the people.. There have been dozens of implementations, always in the political context of collaborative change-making and peaceful evolution to advance the common good. The conceptual framework for this model comes from my corporate experience in human resources and decades of experience as an organizational development consultant (using models that also apply to national and global challenges), vocational counselor and Reconciliation Leader, coach and trainer.
Reconciliation Leadership and the Peacebuilding Process of Reconciliation to Develop Political Will as leadership and development frameworks have been practiced for nearly 30 years. Given the global problematique all challenges are now interconnected, extending far beyond state geographic boundaries, our commitment is to an interdependent world view. In addition to the 1992 United Nations Celebration, trained Reconciliation Leaders have reconciled conflicts in Sudan, Timor-Leste, New York post 9/11, Burundi, Spain, Philippines, racism and human trafficking in the USA, Rwanda, Liberia, Ex-Yugoslavia, the Parliament of the World’s Religions, and many more.
I founded the Institute for Global Leadership in response to the tragic events of September 11, 2001. I drew on my experience in New York during the World Trade Center attacks, as well as experience n the United Nations since 1991, conceiving, developing and training Reconciliation Leaders.
The Institute for Global Leadership supports the United Nations Day call of UN Secretary-General Antonio Guterres to restore the United Nations mandate, for a bold Covid19 Global Ceasefire in a presentation at the Annual Meeting of the Academic Council for the United Nations in June 2020. Addressing the problematic role of the United States in the UN, we’ve had dialogues for America’s growth to be a better global partner since 2017. Drawing from a rich history of presentations and practice to restore faith in humanity since 1991, we offer the perspectives, tools and techniques of Reconciliation Leaders and a spiritual renaissance for the global common ground created from the COVID19 pandemic.
Another case study with a sacred container was facilitated for the former Yugoslavia here.